My take:
Pornographic imagery/videos should not be on the server whatsoever. There is no reason I can think of to have that sort of thing on a minecraft server, and having young players exposed to this content, (oftentimes sent by legal adults,) is not something that I think anyone truly appreciates. Or, at least, anyone who isn't a pedophile, which I would like to assume that the vast majority of you are not. I would like to remind everyone that there is no age limit on the server. I joined when I was eleven. Kalina joined when she was five. We do currently have players who are under the age of thirteen. Either people are forgetting this, or they just don't care.
My first and most important suggestion is that all pornographic imagery be disallowed going forward, outside of areas specifically designated for it such as the after hours board or the potential discord channel suggested by Yvette. If all other ideas proposed in relation to this argument are dismissed, both by me and other people, I want this one to be implemented. Please discourage and disallow pornographic imagery on VillageCraft. Why people feel the need to do this on a Minecraft server in the first place is mind boggling to me, but that I suppose is besides the point. I would like for it to be specifically outlined in the rules that this is not acceptable.
My second suggestion is that in depth or heavily explicit conversation of sexual nature should not be allowed, at the discretion of staff. This would mean there is a line between jokes (which are permissible) and going into the "pretty uncomfortable" territory (which would not be).
My third suggestion is to also have a disclaimer at spawn. This can be implemented whether rule changes are implemented or not. There could be a sign (or book or what have you) stating something like this: This server is PG-13 in regards to sexual content. We allow players of all ages on our server, but if discussion of this topic is foreign or disturbing to you, please proceed with caution. Something like this would have very likely dissuaded me from joining the server, even without an age limit, and subsequently prevented me from seeing a lot of things that were very new to me and very uncomfortable.
would love to hear you guys' thoughts, hopeful that some of these problems get worked out in the near future.