Also, girls, you're both pretty <.<
I don't understand why you people can hold a grudge for so damn long. All my anger is gone after about 30 minutes-1 hour
Wow, you are lucky. It is like, "Get on my bad side and you left there." for us.
One who holds a grudge knows not the virtues and benefits of forgiveness. Grudges cause one to dwell on the negativity of the past instead of looking forward to the positivity of the future.
Right up untill they stab you in the back again.
Lol, letting go of a grudge and allowing someone to harm you again are two totally, separate things. I can forgive someone and never give them the opportunity to make me forgive them again.
then you did not really forgive them.
I can't forgive someone and say "You know, I don't feel bad about what you did" but not let them get in that position again?
Forgiveness is the renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. Nowhere in there does it say you are required to then again put yourself in the same position to be slighted again by the same person.
not all situations you can keep yourself from being put in.
But all situations you can keep yourself from being hurt in - with a little ingenuity and the proper amount of dependence on other people, you can limit or possibly completely eliminate further harm to yourself via spreading responsibilities out, keeping a limit on disseminated information, or whatever else happens to apply to the situation.
In the end, no one can MAKE you feel the way you do, they can only put you in situations where it is most convenient to feel a certain way about something. It is ultimately up to you to choose to feel bad for something that someone else does, no matter how harmful or hurtful it may be, because you are the one in the pilot's seat of that gray mass of neurons in your head.
